Am I Worried, or is this Anxiety?

Everyone worries and has anxious feelings at some time in their life. How do you know what is worry or anxiety, and when it is a problem? And how do you learn how to manage anxieties in order to prevent them from affecting your day to day life? When you are worried you usually feel troubled or concerned about something. …

Dealing with loneliness

Loneliness is the feeling of  sadness experienced when one has no company. Most of us are familiar with this feeling and have experienced at some time in our lives. We may have experienced it when living away from friends or family, due to changes in friends and circumstances or periods of difficulty in our intimate relationships. Sometimes we feel it …

Love is all around: a quick guide to getting the love you want

Being in a long term relationship can be the easiest and the hardest thing you’ll do.  When the love is all around, relationships  provide security, make life more fun and enhance our sense of meaning in life.  Sometimes the relationship hits unexpected bumps in the road  or gets worn down over time and you get in a negative cycle with your partner.  Here are some suggestions for ways …

Winning ways for talking with children

As many of you know, in addition to my role as a clinical psychologist, I am also the parent of two young children. I am interested in what works with children from  both a professional and personal point of view . I  look for better ways to do things with my children and freely admit that parenting is a big …

10 tips to feel better: a mind-body-brain approach

Sometime after having my second child, I fell into an emotional well-being hole. I felt tired, resentful and found little enjoyment in life. For a time, I dealt with this by drinking more coffee and complaining a lot.  This is probably not what you were expecting a qualified clinical psychologist to say, but it’s the truth. Neither strategy worked very well. When I look back at this …

When work makes you nervous.

From time to time work can be stressful. Maybe we have a deadline coming up or work is slow and we feel uneasy about our job security. It’s normal to have fears or feel awkward sometimes at work but for some people feeling nervous at work is a daily occurrence. They worry about their performance, their relationships with colleagues and …

How to prevent depression during periods of stress

Over the years I’ve noticed that many people I see for depression, come to see me after living through a recent crisis or whilst enduring the effects of long term stress. How does stress contribute to depression and how can we prevent stress turning into depression? Understanding the psychological mechanisms of how stress can lead to depression can help you prevent …

Eat well, live well, feel well

I became interested in eating and weight loss issues  whilst working as a Clinical Psychologist at King Edward Memorial Hospital. I was asked to provide consultation to the Dietetics team regarding the psychological factors involved in obesity and weight loss for significantly overweight  women whom the dietitians were trying to help minimise weight gain during pregnancy. Some of these women were able to …

Improve your sleep with these simple habit changes

Let’s talk about the simply habit changes you can put in place to improve your sleep.  Did you know 30% of adults have problems with sleep? As someone who has struggled with insomnia in the past, I found that both healthy thinking and good sleep habits (or sleep hygeine) were vital to getting my sleep back on track. Research also …

Sleep problems and your thinking

Sleep problems. If you’ve ever had them you know how sleep problems can affect your wellbeing in particular your mood and anxiety levels. Thinking often plays a role in maintaining sleep problems, such as insomnia. Today, I’m going to walk you though what sleep problems or insomnia look like and then how to address problematic thinking styles that contribute to sleep problems. I …