Be kind to yourself this season

This great article from the Jean Hailes foundation has lots of  ideas for staying emotionally well  over the Christmas and New Year period. Best wishes for a peaceful and safe Christmas to all my clients and readers of this blog, Nadene Be kind to yourself this season For many of us, the end of the year means a break from …

Reasons to stay alive by Matt Haig

I usually write my own blog posts but today I’m sharing this short, helpful and inspiring blog post written by Matt Haig, author of  Reasons to Stay Alive. Matt Haig is someone who battled depression and made it to the other side. It is rare to come across something which  bravely deals with the reality of suicidal thoughts that often …

Recovering from trauma: the benefits of seeking help.

A traumatic event is any experience in which a person is exposed to, or witnesses, a threatening or harmful event, and experiences strong negative emotions, or helplessness. Examples of this include life threatening events such as car accidents, rape and war experiences. Other traumatic events are more personal and include events such public humiliation, critical put downs by parents or …

Mindfulness: less anxiety, stress, depression and even the winning edge

Mindfulness changed the way I approach my own emotional wellbeing. The evidence is overwhelming. People who practise mindfulness are less stressed, less anxious and depressed. People’s brains change in in response to regular mindfulness practise and they change for the better. Mindfulness is also encouraged to improve performance and many elite sporting teams now use mindfulness practise to enhance athlete’s wellbeing and performance to gain …

Grief: Adjusting to life after loss.

Losing someone close to you or a part of your family through death is a part of life that we will all experience sometime in our lives. Some losses such as the loss of children are particularly difficult grief experiences. For many the intense pain of grief is unexpected and it is difficult to know how to adjust to life …

Am I Worried, or is this Anxiety?

Everyone worries and has anxious feelings at some time in their life. How do you know what is worry or anxiety, and when it is a problem? And how do you learn how to manage anxieties in order to prevent them from affecting your day to day life? When you are worried you usually feel troubled or concerned about something. …

Dealing with loneliness

Loneliness is the feeling of  sadness experienced when one has no company. Most of us are familiar with this feeling and have experienced at some time in our lives. We may have experienced it when living away from friends or family, due to changes in friends and circumstances or periods of difficulty in our intimate relationships. Sometimes we feel it …

Love is all around: a quick guide to getting the love you want

Being in a long term relationship can be the easiest and the hardest thing you’ll do.  When the love is all around, relationships  provide security, make life more fun and enhance our sense of meaning in life.  Sometimes the relationship hits unexpected bumps in the road  or gets worn down over time and you get in a negative cycle with your partner.  Here are some suggestions for ways …

Winning ways for talking with children

As many of you know, in addition to my role as a clinical psychologist, I am also the parent of two young children. I am interested in what works with children from  both a professional and personal point of view . I  look for better ways to do things with my children and freely admit that parenting is a big …

10 tips to feel better: a mind-body-brain approach

Sometime after having my second child, I fell into an emotional well-being hole. I felt tired, resentful and found little enjoyment in life. For a time, I dealt with this by drinking more coffee and complaining a lot.  This is probably not what you were expecting a qualified clinical psychologist to say, but it’s the truth. Neither strategy worked very well. When I look back at this …