How to stay calm when there’s too much to do

“How can I stay calm when there’s too much to do?” This is a question I’ve been asked a lot by many people. Students juggling two jobs and trying to finish assignments, busy parents and employees struggling to meet deadlines all want to know the secret. I’ve even had retired people report they feel overwhelmed by the stress of competing demands. What …

I love you, I hate you: 10 tips to survive parenting teens.

Parents of teens can experience the “I love you, I hate you” dynamic as their teenage child journeys to adulthood. It can feel like teens love you one minute and then hate you the next. Parents often complain that the only time their teen talks to them is if they want something and that they struggle to get their teens out of …

Coaching kids: my journey with positive psychology

Yesterday I came to the end of my netball coaching career. Together the kids and I started as beginners and by the end of season 2, we had a team who could play a good game of netball and a clinical psychologist who could coach. Coaching was a little daunting for me. Let’s just say I’m not known for my …

How to conquer your fears and phobias

About 20 years ago, I clung onto a metal peg a few meters up a tree, seemingly frozen and unable to move. I felt the familiar feeling of my fear of heights sweep over me. I had wanted to climb the Gloucester tree but I could not go further. Nor could I go back down. For those unfamiliar with the Gloucester tree, …

How to handle a personal attack

Recently, I experienced a personal attack. It arrived in the form of a letter written by another professional and was filled with accusations, comments and judgements about my character and values. The author also made other negative comments about me which were unrelated to their actual complaint. Instantly I recalled a book I had read as an 8 year old, …

Be kind to yourself this season

This great article from the Jean Hailes foundation has lots of  ideas for staying emotionally well  over the Christmas and New Year period. Best wishes for a peaceful and safe Christmas to all my clients and readers of this blog, Nadene Be kind to yourself this season For many of us, the end of the year means a break from …

Reasons to stay alive by Matt Haig

I usually write my own blog posts but today I’m sharing this short, helpful and inspiring blog post written by Matt Haig, author of  Reasons to Stay Alive. Matt Haig is someone who battled depression and made it to the other side. It is rare to come across something which  bravely deals with the reality of suicidal thoughts that often …

Recovering from trauma: the benefits of seeking help.

A traumatic event is any experience in which a person is exposed to, or witnesses, a threatening or harmful event, and experiences strong negative emotions, or helplessness. Examples of this include life threatening events such as car accidents, rape and war experiences. Other traumatic events are more personal and include events such public humiliation, critical put downs by parents or …

Mindfulness: less anxiety, stress, depression and even the winning edge

Mindfulness changed the way I approach my own emotional wellbeing. The evidence is overwhelming. People who practise mindfulness are less stressed, less anxious and depressed. People’s brains change in in response to regular mindfulness practise and they change for the better. Mindfulness is also encouraged to improve performance and many elite sporting teams now use mindfulness practise to enhance athlete’s wellbeing and performance to gain …

Grief: Adjusting to life after loss.

Losing someone close to you or a part of your family through death is a part of life that we will all experience sometime in our lives. Some losses such as the loss of children are particularly difficult grief experiences. For many the intense pain of grief is unexpected and it is difficult to know how to adjust to life …