How to heal and recover after ending a friendship

As originally published on http://havingtime.com/how-to-heal-and-recover-after-ending-a-friendship/ Some friendships end with a bang. Others dwindle away over time. Some we pine for and some end with a sense of relief. Over the last 12 months, a friendship of mine came to a halt. It was a decision that I made after a series of unpleasant encounters over many years. I held on …

Expert tips on how to improve your sex life

As originally published on http://havingtime.com/how-to-improve-your-sex-life/   In my clinic, I often see people seeking help for lack of sexual intimacy in their relationship. Both men and woman present with this problem and there is often concern about what is normal. People want to know “how much sex is normal in a long term relationship?” Often they have read the statistic …

When the bottom drops out of your world: how to keep living after loss

There are many experiences of loss in life. Loss of pets, friendships that end and even end of era type experiences can be experienced as a loss. None of this compares to the actual bottom dropping out of your world kind of loss that comes with losing someone you love deeply and dearly. It physically hurts and can be very devastating. …

How to feel better with mindful yoga: 6 easy techniques you can do anywhere

Over the summer I made a daily commitment to do yoga each morning in the outdoors. My goal was not to be fitter or more flexible, it was to enhance my mindfulness skills and wellbeing. I decided I needed to get more in touch with my body during mindfulness practise. I had become aware that I was mostly practising mindfulness from a …

Narcissist or Psychopath?

In recent years I’ve noticed a rise in the number of people talking about narcissists both in and outside of my clinic. Ex-partners, parents and friends are all being labelled narcissists. There are even facebook and instagram pages dedicated to recovering from relationships with narcissists. At the heart of this is usually someone who has been hurt or treated very …

How to stay calm when there’s too much to do

“How can I stay calm when there’s too much to do?” This is a question I’ve been asked a lot by many people. Students juggling two jobs and trying to finish assignments, busy parents and employees struggling to meet deadlines all want to know the secret. I’ve even had retired people report they feel overwhelmed by the stress of competing demands. What …

I love you, I hate you: 10 tips to survive parenting teens.

Parents of teens can experience the “I love you, I hate you” dynamic as their teenage child journeys to adulthood. It can feel like teens love you one minute and then hate you the next. Parents often complain that the only time their teen talks to them is if they want something and that they struggle to get their teens out of …

Coaching kids: my journey with positive psychology

Yesterday I came to the end of my netball coaching career. Together the kids and I started as beginners and by the end of season 2, we had a team who could play a good game of netball and a clinical psychologist who could coach. Coaching was a little daunting for me. Let’s just say I’m not known for my …

How to conquer your fears and phobias

About 20 years ago, I clung onto a metal peg a few meters up a tree, seemingly frozen and unable to move. I felt the familiar feeling of my fear of heights sweep over me. I had wanted to climb the Gloucester tree but I could not go further. Nor could I go back down. For those unfamiliar with the Gloucester tree, …